Having heard some of your horror stories, I realized I got
pretty lucky with my host family. For
the most part, they were great, if a bit odd.
So here’s a little overview of my family, and some of the culture
differences they helped me to see.
First there’s my host mother, Annette. She used to work in finance, or something
like that, that sounds really boring to me, so I can’t be very specific about
it. She stopped either because she was
bored, or because she had kids. Not sure
which. But she started her own
organization, “Bienvenue à Paris,” to show expats and tourists a deeper side to
Paris, past the obvious tourist sites.
She teaches healthy French cooking classes, leads tours, etc. She, with help from her Filipino housekeeper,
makes lunch and dinner for her family every day, which includes a salad, a main
course, and then fruit or yogurt for dessert.
She offers water during the meal.
There is no wine or cheese. She
does the laundry and the dishes, and enjoys entertaining guests for a meal.
My host father, Olivier, works in Marsaille, and commutes a
couple times a week. He often gets home
around midnight, stays for a day or two, and then leaves at 6 am. He does not know how to operate the
dishwasher, the laundry machine, or how to cook himself a meal. His owns a business that sells window
hangings, or something. Again, not super
interesting. He laughs incredibly
loudly, and though he seems pretty fit, his wife and daughter frequently yell
at him to stop eating so much.
The daughter, Valentine, is 18 years old, pre med, and
probably weights about 80 pounds.
(Ironically, my host parents often nagged me for not eating enough, and
seemed concerned that I might be anorexic.
Yeah. Okay.) She often whines at her mother, as teenagers
do, and plays American top 40s music loudly in her room. Her mother has to yell her name several times
before she shows up to dinner, eats quickly, and leaves, much to the
displeasure of her mother, who would like her to stay and make
conversation. She reminds me of why my
relationship with my parents got so much better once we weren’t living
together, but she’ll be living at home while she goes to medical school in
Paris.
The son, Alexander, is 22 and just got an internship with
Amazon. He is still living at home, and
he and his sister often fight loudly over who gets to use the shower
first. That’s about all I know of him.
My host family is odd, and sometimes confusing. But I was offered a good dinner every night,
a view of the Eiffel Tower from my room, and a cool cat to hang out with. They were patient with my questions and only
allowed me to speak in French, which helped me improve a lot. They corrected my grammar without seeming
condescending, and asked questions about my family at home. Overall, not the worst pace to spend three
months.